MOTHER was trying on her new fur coat. It was very expensive. Her young daughter watched her curiously and remarked: imagine how much suffering the poor animal would have had to undergo for you to have this fur coat! Mother turned to her daughter angrily: how dare you speak about your poor father like this. These days you young people have no respect for elders!
Our mind leads us its own way, sometimes strange ways, in the way it thinks and responds. Thoughts rise and fall chaotically within our mind; nothing is logical; they rise, live and fall. It is not thinking; it is just association. Association causes dilemmas. Fathers turn into poor animals.
When we bring your thinking process into consciousness our desires too become conscious. As of now they are mostly unconscious. You realise only after a while that whatever led into a problem is just association, not your desires.
We try to suppress desires or fulfil them. Suppression does not work. Fulfilment does not remove desires, it creates more desires. Bring your desires to consciousness from unconsciousness. If the desire is really worth fulfilling, the desire itself will have its energy for fulfilment. If not it will disappear. Either way you are in relaxation.
Energy is the source of desire. The same energy that converts food into muscles, circulates blood, moves your body. Between body and energy desires happen; they are closer to energy than body; they are more powerful than body. If you change your desires your whole body can change. Writing is the best way to raise desires to awareness.
Once a week give an appointment to yourself for 30 minutes and ask your Being what it wants. Just listen to your mind and note down. Whatever is necessary will stand, whatever is not will disappear. Many of our desires are not our own deep desires. We have life and energy to live only our own desires.
To mind your mind we need contemplation, concentration and meditation. Guiding our mind is contemplation; centring on one subject is concentration; when mind disappears into that subject and no mind remains it is meditation. When you become aware of this table it is contemplation; when you centre yourself on the wood it is concentration; when your mind become the wood it is meditation.
Meditation makes you aware of the reality. It liberates you.

– Paramahamsa Nithyananda